“Following active summer days, fall offers a welcome respite. Cooler days invite you to turn inward and sit in reverie. Longer nights leave more time for wandering in the dreamtime. Take time in this season to slow down and rest in the void.” Sacred Motherhood by Anni Daulter and Niki Dewart
I’m feeling rejuvenated and fulfilled after 5 soulful uninterrupted hours to myself this morning. I try to take a soul holiday – hours spent in solitude – at least once a month. This is especially true since crossing the threshold into sacred motherhood. Time spent alone doing nothing calms my nervous system, helping me to feel open and spacious. I am a more present and kinder mother, wife, and friend because I’m able to lovingly give from an over flowing, rather than empty, cup.
Practicing mindfulness and self-discovery has helped teach me to notice when I’m over due for some precious me time – I’m impatient, say the F word more often than usual, easily irritated, unable to savor a deep breath, a knot forms under my right shoulder blade, and a headache pulses in my left temple. The trick is to practice self-nurturance regularly so as to not get to the point of “losing it”.
My beloved husband graciously supports my need to self-nourish in this way. My love and gratitude for this man is unworldly.
Let go of all guilt so you can manifest the space and time that you need for self-care. It’s okay – your loved ones will reap the benefits. By nurturing yourself, you are teaching your loved ones the importance of loving and caring for oneself.
I adore this divine wisdom found in the book Sacred Motherhood, “Look beyond the band-aid indulgences that help you keep it all together – your morning latte, retail therapy, or chocolate, for instance – and seek out experiences that deeply nourish your soul. These might be as simple as a walk on the beach that activates your bliss, or as in-depth as a meditation retreat that gets you back onto your cushion.”
Create a “peace tent” in your home: This is a sacred space where you (or other family members) can retreat when you’re in need of rest or tempers flare. Make it beautiful, calming, and inviting. A bottle of Rescue Remedy, a box of tissues, some healing stones, and a soft place to land are a few of the necessary accoutrements. Then use it before you lose it – not only for your own peace of mind, but also acting as a role model for loved ones.
Carnelian is an ideal stone to carry or wear to help deal with intense emotions without reacting. It helps to balance the inner self and call in the support of your spirit guides.